True Love

knox · Kickflip Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Posts: 4693 City: Gainesville

How many of you believe that it exists? That somewhere out there the perfect person is waiting, it was kinda mentioned in Crispy's thread. Not necessarily fate, but maybe that you can grow with a person to where you know they are the "one." Is it just nonsense that we grow up with, or is there some truth behind the fairytales?

I'd really like to hear some opinions, I know there are a lot of people here on both ends of the spectrum.

Idea

crispy · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 4:32 pm Post subject:

The Kid, looks like i started a thought provoking topic Smash

mojo · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 4:33 pm Post subject:

definitely not. i'd have to say there is such thing as love, but it's not everlasting. pre-nups fellas.

PrimeO · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 4:37 pm Post subject:

You'll know the feeling when you have a kid. Best feeling in the world.

gporter · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 4:44 pm Post subject:

It's called lust... not love.

Mr. Top Hat · Dead Joined: 29 Aug 2004 Posts: 5818

Nah, it's called addiction. Tell me a crackhead doesn't truly love his crack, they're like a match made in heaven.

knox · Kickflip Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Posts: 4693 City: Gainesville

PrimeO, That's good to hear Very Happy

gporter, You don't think an emotional element exists at all?

electricsnow · cassette Joined: 14 Sep 2003 Posts: 10756 City: Jefferton

for sure there are absolutely amazing couples out there, but there are a lot of people out there who have to put in a lot of work to make a relationship work. I think work is the reality more than anything (not in a bad way).

gporter · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 5:54 pm Post subject:

The Kid, hard to say, but what I'm talking about isn't the same kind of love you have for your kids or family.

knox · Kickflip Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Posts: 4693 City: Gainesville

gporter, I would agree, but is it any less important? Obviously physical desire is involved, but does that make relationship type love less real or less powerful than the love of your family?

scott a · "a" is for angel Joined: 17 Feb 2004 Posts: 4126

There's a TON of people out there, so I don't see any reason to absolutely rule it out.

yookyle · Backside 180 Joined: 15 Jan 2009 Posts: 1002 City: Reno

my parents were highschool sweethearts and have been happily married for a long time. i think that no matter what you will love your family more than anyone you could have a relationship with. i beleive theres love but you have to work for it

-=AlexXx=- · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 8:24 pm Post subject:

ive been in a relationship for nearly 2 years now, live with her, and still have yet to even ever have a fight. its easy to fall in love with a girl who doesnt do shizzle to piss you off or anything untrustworthy. Also its a nice addition when she cooks you dinner, buys you new nikes and is a bartender.... I most definitely believe in love. oh and shes got a pretty rocking body, that helps too.

EJazzle · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 10:19 pm Post subject:

I think there are people out there who complement and "complete" one another. But a lot of people mistake lust for love. Sex doesn't have to be part of the relationship, but some people mistake lust for true love.

Some of the "highly educated" people consider sex to be a recreational activity and don't believe love exists because it can't be proven...

I believe there is such thing as true love, but there are so many other words that can explain it.

-=AlexXx=- · Posted: Aug 05, 2010 11:05 pm Post subject:

EJazzle, WORD.

i miss you <3

gporter · Posted: Aug 06, 2010 5:27 am Post subject:

The Kid, sorry I didn't respond right away... but I don't think the love you have for a family member and the supposed love you have for another person are comparable, so importance shouldn't be considered.

When I think of the love I have for my family, or somebody would have for their children, it is more natural. Where as this whole true love thing is kind of the opposite, or unnatural.

Like others in this thread have touched on, relationships need work, communication, and sacrifice. It isn't easy, but if I had to put together a scenario where true love was real... it would require the two to not only love the good, but also the bad about the other person. You can't start off with a physical relationship, because thats where the lust comes in... it will always just be based on sex. Even when you try to convince yourself that you love this person, it will always fall back to how much you love to have sex with them.

Think about it like this... and this is hypothetical. Say you have a girlfriend, and you really like her! You guys have sex frequently. What if you couldn't have sex with her anymore? Would you still REALLY like this girl? Would you love her? I wouldn't. I'm kind of apathetic though so it's hard for me to care about anyone/anything or even have relationships/friendships... but these are just my thoughts on the whole "true love" idea.

POPTART · 360 flip Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 7621

It exist, when she pulls you for the best set of your life, youll know Smash

I got married in Dec, and we moved away from our fam, all my friends, all her friends, and we have had nothing but each other. I can honestly say that i wake up everyday with my best friend. You cant plan life, or what you'll get from it , but like Blake said, you'll know when you know.

Also food for thought

50% of marrage ends in divorce
the other 50% ends in death Laughing

So enjoy what you have, dont waste your time on anyone thats not giving you the same amount of effort in the relationship as you put in.

gporter · Posted: Aug 06, 2010 9:47 am Post subject:

There is no way just 50% of people get divorced, it has to be higher. My parents alone have been married seven times between them, and divorced five, going on six times. I might just be on the wrong side of the fence here... but from my experience, marriage fails.

I don't plan on ever getting married, or having kids. Although, it would be nice when I'm older to have somebody like Alex has, that will cook and clean for me. Cool

POPTART · 360 flip Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 7621

gporter, one day youll wise up, i hope for your sake, you find someone who can change your opinion about marriage.

scott a · "a" is for angel Joined: 17 Feb 2004 Posts: 4126